Networking etiquette — or lack therof
Posted in Uncategorized on April 25th, 2007 by Jack“Can I have your business card?”
That question comes barreling down my ears, breaking my train of thought. I was just outside the entrance to a meeting rooms truggling to tap out a text message a few minutes before the start of an SVASE event. Looking up, I’m surprised to find someone very close to me. So startled, and preoccupied by my other task, I dig in my card wallet and hand him my card.
“Thanks,” he says, and starts to walk away. So I ask him who he is and what he does. He tells me his name, and that he’s looking for a CEO to replace him because he can’t raise any funding for his project that does [...] He then walks away.
At that point, I realize that ‘ve done this dance with him before. And that it’s no surprise that he can’t find a CEO.
I figure he was treating the event the way some people treat LinkedIn – the name of the game is to get as many cards (links) as possible, regardless if you actually have a real relationship.
Shouldn’t you establish a relationship, and a common desire to communicate in the future before trading contact information? If I give you my card (after asking if I may), shouldn’t you reciprocate, and give me yours? What if I’m not part of the event, and just happen to be standing in front of the door?
[As a side note, I often violate the Japanese business card etiquette, in that I write notes on the back of the card to remind me of who the person is, where I met them, and what we talked about. All of this data goes into my outlook contact database when I get to my computer. However, I never do this in front of the person, as that would be truly insulting (especially to the Japanese, who would consider it writing on their face. When I receive their card, it stays in front of me until I'm sure I remember their name, and then it goes into my portfolio, business card wallet, or briefcase. It never goes into my wallet, where I would 'sit on their face'.]
Whatever happened to networking etiquette?